March 2013 BMetro Article: Good Fences Make Good Neighbors

Good Fences Make Good Neighbors

And healthy boundaries make for healthy relationships.

By April Jones

Spring, the time of year when nature and humanity begins to emerge from a deep slumber, stretching limbs, and regaining a breath of energy and awareness. It’s the time when many begin to prepare and plant gardens, plan outdoor projects, and purge the unnecessary layers of protection given to their seed and flowers. This is also when many begin to construct fences; lovely boundaries that mark ones territory-the edges of climbing foliage, the back posts to many a strong and sturdy stem, and the perimeters to vivid imaginations that dominate the yard. These fences provide purpose: security, ownership, and respect.
Some of us use fences as a decorative piece, giving the final touches to our dream home with picketed grandeur. Some of us use fences to prevent running children and pets from moving too quickly into harm’s way. And some of us use fences to keep others out. We post “no trespassing” signs and lock gates to ensure no one gets too close, and no one gets hurt. All of which serve valid purposes, and don’t differ much from the emotional boundaries we construct.
We all know the person who has no boundaries. You know, the one who will always answer a call, never says no, and is continuously exhausted because they spend so much time and energy giving everything they have to others. This person is often broken-hearted, feels betrayed, and finds it difficult to bring balance to anything in their life. We also know the person who has too many. You know the one who will always be alone because no one ever loves them enough. This person will say no to most invites, is “too busy” and is continuously complaining about how unhappy and unsatisfied they are. Everyone and everything always ends up disappointing, so why bother? We know those that only seem capable of expressing what it is they don’t want, don’t need, and know exactly what displeases them—everything! We all know people (it may be us) that struggle with boundaries – they’ve built too many fences, or not enough.
Have you ever considered the phrase, “Good fences make good neighbors?” Fences create boundaries, and boundaries provide stability and safety. The question is, what are you communicating, and why? Did you construct these fences to protect, or did you construct these fences to preserve? It is possible to do both. When boundaries are clear and well-defined, everyone knows what to expect. There is no confusion about what is mine, and what is yours when I have taken the time to survey, measure, mark and post my perimeters. But when no time is taken to examine or determine what belongs to us, we have no concept of where to begin, much less end any tasks within our means, because we have no clear definition of our confines or constraints.
This same truth applies to our personal relationships, be it business, family, friends, or lovers. If you step into a business agreement and have not taken any time to define, discuss, and sometimes even negotiate terms, you may find yourself feeling either overworked, under appreciated, feeling betrayed, or most often feeling used or taken advantage of. It is no different with our personal relationships. Relationships are a bit like elastic — they can shift, stretch and even pull past repair, but require flexibility. We need not sit down and negotiate a contract, signing on the dotted line the static perimeters of what will be, how it will work, and what it will look like when we are done. But we do need to sit down, first with ourselves, and consider what it is we want and expect out of ourselves, our lives, and our relationships. Taking the time to ask, “What do I want? What do I need? What do I like? How do I feel? Where do I want to be? What do I want to become?” and “What do I want my relationships to look like?” can not only empower us, but empower the relationships we are in, or aspire to obtain.
As parents, we must define our roles as mentor, provider, and comforter as well as disciplinarian, leader, and ultimate decision maker. As friends or lovers, we must define ourselves as confidants, encouragers, and supporters as well as accountability counselor, and sometimes the voice of reality. Every relationship has components of all of these, but many times we forget what role we play, and what our needs are, or were, when we get caught up in the fleeting issues of anger, weariness, betrayal, frustration, hurt, confusion, sadness, and disappointment. All of these are very real emotions. But all of these can be blown out of proportion when we feel expectations were left unmet.
When expectations leave us disappointed, most often those expectations were never communicated but assumed; assumed that the other would just somehow figure it out- through listening, paying attention, or asking us. But, most often, this isn’t the way it works. People can’t read our minds any more than they can read our hearts. And although many are sensitive, and do try to listen, the reality is that unless it has been clearly communicated, people are simply going to treat us the way we teach them. How do we teach them? We teach people how to treat us by what we allow in words, in action, and in time.
Boundaries, like fences, can be a beautiful thing. But understanding their purpose and perimeters is where the real beauty happens. Boundaries have to be about you. Take time to evaluate your fences. Maybe some were constructed without direction or purpose. Maybe some were simply inherited. Maybe some need to be repaired. Maybe some need to be relocated, and maybe some just need to come down. Setting boundaries doesn’t mean you want to keep people out. Remember, boundaries establish ownership, purpose, security and respect. Setting boundaries means you have a clear understanding of you and your space. And what you must determine is who and what you want in it. We all have room to grow, and grow together. It takes many a blossom to create a glorious garden, so let’s create a space that we might most fully realize our blooms!

February 2013 B-Metro Article: Find Your Partners, Ladies & Gents

Find Your Partners, Ladies and Gents

But understand how to look for them.
By April Jones
There has always been, and will always be a constant struggle to figure out where and how we fit into one another’s lives—especially between man and woman. It is a complex dance. Once established in the footwork, which can initially appear awkward and unsightly, we find we can execute the dance with grace and pleasure.
“Men are from Mars.” Why Mars? Mars is the planet that governs war, aggression, and power. Men are strong, spacious, and dynamic in their ability: hunters, fighters, and champions. They are hungry, and provide the ability to comfort, often in their presence alone. Usually grapplers by nature, appreciative of a struggle, with an innate need to participate in “the fight,” they are warriors. They want to defend, protect, chase, pursue, and compete. They are the ones that stand the ground, fight off the threat, and defend the turf come hell or high water! They are tough, engaging, always curious, and require space for adventure and reflection.
“Women are from Venus.” Why Venus? Venus is the planet that governs sensuality, movement and allure. Women are complex, often described emotional, at best. They feed the appetite by way of inspiring, seducing and nurturing. Women seek to create a place of security, comfort, and support. The gatherers who will lovingly shove you straight out of the nest—they are avengers. Women seek a strength they can lean against. They desire understanding, empathy, and the exhilaration of pursuit. They are the ones that most often assure because they are the ones that plan and dare to dream. They want companionship, an ear, a voice, a touch. Women are soft, sensual, ever expanding, always shifting, and require space for energy and emotion.
These counter roles serve to strengthen and enhance, while depending on the presence and balance of one another. There is a place within us all for the other end of this personal spectrum that can only be found in a partner. A partner that was consciously created before time began that would satisfy, strengthen and solidify your very essence! Someone that speaks the same love languages, reciprocates your desire, understands your emotions, longs to encourage and engage you, and believes in the same things you do. I’m not saying you “need” the other person to complete you in the codependent context. But if you are to look at the perfectly balanced, never ending circle to which the yin and yang of all things is shaped, the being and presence of Mars completes and compliments Venus, because the galaxy depends on the presence of both.
Consider what men and women are drawn to? Think of movies, music, media, and marketing (what continues to sell can not be overlooked). Let’s start with men. Where do you see the permanence for a man’s time and attention? What is it that calls to our men; compels them? Sex. War. Violence. Aggression. Assertion. Activity. Consider the best selling “men movies” (don’t be hatin’—you know you call’em “chick flicks”). They all contain a spirit of adventure. Desire. Potential. Promise. Chase. Speed. Men need to seek something bigger than themselves. Something to set sight on, work towards and claim. It is what men were wired to “want” and “do.” And the ‘lover’ comes in many forms. Seeking liberation, blood and conquest, they want to overcome, and often times, they want to do it alone. A hero does not share the glory and he is always recognized for his accomplishments! It isn’t to be mocked or sneered at as macho or ego-driven. When men are moved to pursue, it is because they have been moved by desire, hunger, longing, and thrill—the challenge, chase, and possible capture is what sets the stage of great interest.
We are inundated with all kinds of equally stimulating and collective things that could give an idea to the wiring and working of a woman’s desire. Consider novels, soap operas, talk and reality shows, magazines, malls, manicures and makeup. Women like beauty and passion—feeling it and creating it-period. They like the dream, the drama, and the demand required to be apart of making it unfold. Women desire to be beautiful, sexy, admired and adored. They have a need for communication and dissection. Women need support-involvement. They are rarely ones to process or fight alone. Sometimes it is for the sake of intimacy, but it is often for security, advice, and assurance. Women are drawn to romance. Relationship. Drama. Tenderness. Strength. Risk. A woman has need for her own adventures, but they are often very different from mans! The pursuer that would climb the tower, slay the dragon, dare fight for our company, and of course our beauty is always welcome! We don’t want a “savior,” but we do want someone willing to fight for us—better yet, with us. Women enjoy being swooned, romanticized and invited to be apart of the dance. We are heroines because we fight for the dreams, keep them alive, and encourage the dreams in our lovers.
Couples get bored by the loss of the excitement that comes when there no longer seems something to strive for. It is a most beautiful relationship when each is given the opportunity to play out the dance of intimacy through being one’s greatest self. When we can encourage the men and women in our lives to experience love and life authentically, we find our understanding and the ability to connect with one another strengthens. Not only does the connection strengthen, but the desire does as well! When desire is present, there is an ongoing invitation by both partners to woo the other back into the dance. That desire gives way to a most beautiful and intoxicating number. Now here’s the catch—allowing the music to last. Don’t rush it. Don’t squelch it. Don’t fight it. And don’t give up on it. The best partners didn’t become so by accident, but by practice, intention and dedication. Be open to ad–lib and freestyle. Now grab your lover; let’s dance!
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January 2013 B-Metro Article: A No Excuse New Year

A No Excuse New Year

Start this year fresh. Start it right.
By April Jones
New Year’s….just saying it brings about a sense of excitement, hope and promise. There is something so gratifying to closing a year, whether good or bad, and beginning a new one. We celebrate the arrival with glitter and glamor, champagne and noise makers. It’s like a pep rally for potential.  We await the time with baited breath to count down the end of a chapter, a season, a year. We shake our rattles, pop the confetti, then seal it with a kiss, often times in inebriated bliss.  It is a most auspicious celebration with foods to invoke good luck and the tradition of creating a “Resolutions List.” We sit down with the very best of intentions to develop a list—a guide, if you will—of all the things we would like to see ourselves accomplish and/or “do” throughout the year. Since there are no “rules,” we can be as conservative, or as outlandish as we want to be.
For some, sincere time and dedication is given to develop a plan for accessing the power this New Year brings. These are the ones that will actually set out to accomplish the list. They might not do them all, but they get an A for effort. They are focused, determined, and use the list to remind them of the course they need to follow. For others, and quite frankly, probably the majority of us, the list is made half-heartedly, if at all. We might find the same “projects” or “ideas” on our list that we have had for the past seven years, maybe even the past 20.
What is it that holds us back from fulfilling our lists, creating them even? What keeps us from finding our purpose? Following through? Committing? Could it be that we pile up a list of excuses? Reasons we “can’t,” we “shouldn’t,” or heaven forbid that we simply “wouldn’t?” I hear all kinds of excuses for why people can’t make change. I don’t just don’t deal with the body here- I deal with the spirit too. This “why” is what I like to get to the bottom of. Many couldn’t tell you the true reasons “why” they feel or believe the way they do, but they do know the lines they’ve learned, repeated, and continued to use have worked. These excuses have allowed them to evade and/or avoid making change.
Many have had their spirits broken, crushed, or suppressed. Many have been told for so long what they can or can not do, or who they should or should not be, that they begin to believe those things as truth. Now I’m not saying people don’t have legitimate reasons for not doing things. We all know there are very real limitations that can be caused by a variety of circumstance. But that’s not what I’m talking about. What I’m talking about are the excuses we make to hold ourselves back. Isn’t that really what we are doing? Isn’t an excuse given in exchange for an action? If my kids miss school, I must provide and excuse. If you’re late for dinner, work, or a social event, you must provide one. And because we’ve become so accustomed to offering them, many times, we begin to simply create them whether they are needed or not.
The most common: “But you don’t know what I’ve been through in my life! Where I’ve come from! What I’ve done; what’s been done to me…blah, blah, blah.” You know what? We’ve all been through the muck. Every…Single…One of us. Have you read the statistics for domestic/childhood/sexual abuse? Forget statistics, how about headlines? Divorce?  Addiction? Disease? Homelessness? Bankruptcy? Seriously? Do you not think, for a moment, that every single one of us could fall back upon our own personal histories and choose to believe that what was is what determines what can be.
All of us have something in us that has the “potential” to hold us back. But the very REAL truth of the matter is that unless we want something, we aren’t gonna go for it. If you don’t want to dedicate yourself—you don’t. If you don’t want something different—you don’t seek it. We inhibit many of our best efforts through negative self-talk, limiting beliefs, and inherited ideas. We are own worst enemies. We will talk ourselves up and then tear ourselves down. If you can raise your hand to be apart of the class that says you’ve got some issues, then BRAVO! I applaud and commend your bravery to acknowledge your imperfections. You, my friend, have the greatest potential of all, for you can see you are flawed and have needs. If you want to make change, real change, commit to simply observing your approach to new ideas and opportunities. Enlist the help of a professional. There are countless people that are gifted with insight on our behavior and have a genuine desire to see you improve your life. Psychologists, psychiatrists, counselors, and life coaches are all dedicated (without any attachment to your excuses) to helping you move PAST your limitations. “But, April—those are expensive! That takes time and money! Neither of which I have.” Really? Insurance, sliding scales, and payment plans are all options these days. If you are serious, and you want it, you will do whatever it takes to make it happen.
What conversations are you having with yourself when you make plans to do something new? Something uncomfortable? Something risky? Do you accept the challenge to step on uncharted territory, or do you immediately begin to find ways to stay cozy in the carriage? If you’ve found your self stuck, know you don’t have to stay there! Start this year fresh. Start it new. Start it right by deciding you will confront your excuses so that you no longer need them. Start this new year with a BANG, not a barrier! Namaste, ya’ll.

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Best of Birmingham 2012

Thank you, Birmingham, for such an incredible honor. 

It is a pleasure serving you and your loved ones! 

I am so very humbled!

December 2012 B-Metro Article: Misunderstood Mistletoe

Misunderstood Mistletoe

More than just a Christmas tradition.

By April Jones

‘Tis the season when Christmas décor is pulled from its slumbering boxes; tinsel is pulled strand by strand; and the house is aglow. Among many homes, you will find boughs of mistletoe bound by lovely ribbon, hung throughout the corridors and doorways. These delicate evergreens linger with a bit of magical hope. Its presence insinuating that love’s true kiss will awaken the fires of the heart. It is always most fun and intriguing at seasonal gatherings to see what the herb instigates. Many intentionally place themselves beneath it, many embarrassingly realize once approached, and many others avoid it like the plague. This tradition has been carried on for some time, but most of us are completely unaware of the history.

European Mistletoe (Viscum album) and the American varieties of Phoradendron are a “partial parasite,” meaning they not only attach themselves within the branches or trees which host them (most typically oaks, pines, apple, plum, poplar and spruce trees), but they may also actually penetrate the structure. They absorb their nutrients from the source, so if the host plant dies, they will too. The origin of the name is most unclear and seems to have a broad etymology, but all seem to direct themselves towards a consensual persuasion. Some sources state it comes from a Celtic word for “all-heal”, others that it may be related to the German “Mist” (dung) ,and “Tang” (branch), and others still Old English of “Mistel”(also dung) and “Tan” (twig). The Celtic aspect correlates to the broad historical use of the plant’s medicine: treating nervous complaints, bleeding, and even tumors. The latter references of dung and trees is also quite compelling, for the seeds are passed through the fecal matter of animals, which if given ample time to germinate, will create a new plant.

The mysticism behind the plant is just as curious as the medicine it produces. The stories are broad and vary in reasons as to why we now stand beneath it to kiss. French tradition holds that the plant was plagued as a poisonous parasite  because it was growing on a tree which was used when Christ was crucified. In Greek mythology, in particularly, mistletoe is believed to be the Golden Bough of Aeneas, a Greco-Roman hero; son of  Anchises and  Aphrodite and deemed the legendary founder of Ancient Rome. The story is a rich “Study of Magic and Religion” and sets quite the stage to challenge theology and fertility. In pre-Christian Europe, the plant was seen to represent the divine male essence, quite possibly due to the uncanny resemblance the sticky, clear consistency of the berries has to semen.

The Celts believed it to be a remedy for barrenness in animals, as well as an antidote to poison. The ancient Druids considered mistletoe so sacred that they would circle the plant’s host trees chanting a song, while covering the earth with a white cloth as to not allow it to touch ground once cut with a golden knife. All quite stimulating and intriguing—even a bit erotic, don’t you think? As tradition would have it, once a kiss has been had, the man is to pluck a berry from the bough. But when the berries run out, the kisses are to cease. Is it fair to assume that she, who is kissed, is now fertile? And he that has delivered the kiss and plucked the berry is now able to leave and spread his seed? Hmm ….one could wonder.

But enough of all that, let’s get to the REALLY cool stuff, like actual medicinal constituents of the plant. Mistletoe affects the circulatory and nervous systems. It can first increase, then lower blood pressure, and ease arteriosclerosis.

In particular, it assists with headaches and dizziness due to high blood pressure.  It works as a nervine, and is considered a natural, non-habit forming tranquilizer believed by many European physicians to treat the spleen in cases of epilepsy. Human pharmacological studies have found an intravenous injection of extracts stimulates immune system function. Some animal and test tube studies suggest certain constituents found in mistletoe, including the alkaloids, can kill some cancer cells, stimulate insulin secretion from pancreas cells, and could improve blood sugar levels in individuals with diabetes. Mistletoe contains Vitamin B12, calcium, sodium, magnesium, potassium, iron, cobalt, iodine, copper and cadmium. The important thing to note is the dried leafy twigs of the European Mistletoe are what are most commonly used for medicine, and it is not advised to substitute the American species until further studies are available. There are at least three standardized, injectable extracts studied and regularly used in Europe: Iscador, Helixor and Eurixor (none of which are commercially available in the US, of course!).

So why all the hype about how dangerous this plant is? Reports (particularly related to children) have shown that ingesting LARGE quantities of the leaves and berries of the American species can cause nausea, vomiting, low blood pressure or dizziness. So, although the European mistletoe is less toxic, what we are placing in our homes is of the Western variety. As you hang your boughs of green this year, consider the potential, the possibilities, and the practicality of this most celebrated part of our tradition. Even if we aren’t ingesting this plant, it still stimulates the heart with the hope of love, and improves the probability of fertility! Who knows, it might be that this year, that last berry is hangin’ on just for you! Season’s Greetings, y’all!

November 2012 BMetro Article: The Platitude of Gratitude

The Platitude of Gratitude:

Going Beyond Just Being Grateful

by April Jones

As the year draws near its end, we come upon the season of gratitude and Thanksgiving. It is a time when we begin to reflect and plan to give. But for many, this season is difficult. It can be hard to find or express gratitude when we consider the loss of loved ones. The holidays can be most unbearable when those we loved have moved on and are no longer here to celebrate or enjoy them with us. It can also be difficult when you feel you’ve lost everything.  Many have lost homes, jobs, resources, hope and even sanity this year. Our nation has been in upheaval, and great uncertainties have left us hanging in the balance.

We are a nation of abundance in spite of recent economic downturns. When our homeless still tote cell phones and sport gold chains, it’s evident our ideas of loss and poverty are not what many countries know. We have come to believe that if we are unable to obtain all the material possessions we desire or uphold the status quo of new car, new clothes, new house and annual vacations, we have been deprived. Heaven forbid one need cut off the Internet or cable for a month to save money! Since when did any of us need all of the newest, hottest and fastest in technology, fashion or travel?  We have become a generation consumed by self and have developed an identity based on outward affirmation and the ability to obtain, do and be more.

I don’t wish to minimize anyone’s circumstance, but I do want to expound upon a few incredible things we can reflect upon should we find ourselves feeling poor of heart or spirit. I dare not dive into politics, but may I confidently express that we are a great nation that was built to ensure the “pursuit of happiness” to anyone that placed foot upon this soil and dared go after it?

Many of us take for granted the incredible freedom we have to express our opinions, beliefs and identities. We would rather complain about our circumstance than rise up to change it. We would rather wallow in our pride than admit we might be wrong. We would rather seal ourselves up in anger, hurt or frustration than deal with our pain and choose to walk out of it stronger, happier and healthier.

It is easy to blame our current state of affairs, be it lack or want, on others. It is easier to point fingers than acknowledge our own responsibility. It is easier to say, “You hurt me,” than to say, “I am hurting.”  It is easy to blame our leaders or corporations. It is easy to blame our lovers, children, bosses or parents. But the reality is that we are responsible for our own lives. Very few of us are suffering due to the heavy hand or poor choice of another. Each of us makes a choice daily to be involved, make a difference, pursue happiness or sit on the sidelines. I can wallow in my depravity. I can swim around in a sea of sadness, sorrow, grief and lack. I can also sit with my circumstance, acknowledge my part and set out a course for change.

We are given so many opportunities and blessings, and yet we miss them by being so self-absorbed. When is the last time you went without a meal? Spent weeks sleeping without heat or running water? Depended on a shelter for a safe place to spend the night? Had a meal in a food line? Was unable to express your beliefs without fear of being slaughtered in the streets? Didn’t know how you were going to feed your children? Wore shoes so worn your toes touched the Earth?

We are beyond a blessed nation; we are a spoiled one! Spoiled by our conveniences, our cookie-cutter houses, our designer jeans, our newest downloads and our comforts. We are gluttonous, self-indulgent and drunk on the consumption of whatever fills our fancy. Get still this season, really still. Consider the many luxuries you have been afforded and the life you are living. Consider the roof over your head and the clothes on your back. The food in your fridge and the gasoline in your car. The freedom to choose leaders for our nation. The freedom to worship. The freedom to be yourself.

Now consider those who have nothing. Those still persecuted, even executed, for being women, for being open about their faith, their sexuality, their resistance to being suppressed. Those enslaved, being targeted, trafficked, abandoned and abused. The perspective is daunting, isn’t it? It’s a spoonful of reality that can be most difficult to swallow. Rise up, people! We have been called as a nation to exemplify character — defending the weak, providing for the helpless and giving freely the opportunity of abundance. The freedom was never intended to be about us. It is an embarrassing platitude, but we can quickly rise again. We are a nation of fighters, overcomers and hard workers. Gratitude is powerful, for it inspires action. One can have and say thanks, but one cannot experience true gratitude without being moved to share and invest in others. Count your blessings and make plans to share them.

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October 2012 BMetro Article: The Power of Pumpkin

The Power of Pumpkin

A fruit of many facets.
by April Jones
It’s that time of year again. The air begins to shift, the leaves begin to change and people begin to decorate their homes with the beauty of corn stalks, hay stacks, brightly colored mums and pumpkins. I’m not sure when this trend began, but I must confess, it saddens me to see the many pumpkins that line the streets once both Halloween and Thanksgiving have passed. They are tossed to the curb like unwanted debris, not treated like the jewels they are. I find myself relentlessly collecting various varieties that get tossed to the curb and planning my next meal, snack or dessert, depending on the variety. Sometimes my zealousness lends itself to one too many in the root cellar, but I just can’t bear to see the bounty go to waste. I imagine if most of you knew what this incredible food could do for you, you would share the sentiment.
These fall beauties are not only lovely additions to our front porches and table displays but packed full of great vitamins and minerals that can boost our immune systems. It’s a shame these orange orbs aren’t available beyond the holidays, other than in cans, for much can be gleamed from the fruit. I hope that by the time I share with you the many attributes of these bad boys, you will find yourself with additional uses and quantities for your own home. Let’s first start with what pumpkins actually are. These winter fruits, and yes, they are fruits, are native to North America and are a member of the squash family. The ones most often seen here are of the Connecticut Field variety. You will most often hear them referred to as gourds or gourd-like squash.
Now get ready to be blown away by the power of pumpkin! Most parts of the plants are edible. You can ingest the shell, the flesh, the seeds, the leaves and even the flowers. The flesh of pumpkins is super-charged with cancer-fighting chemicals, rich in Vitamin C and high in fiber. If you are looking for the highest amount of carotenoids (which studies suggest prevent various forms of cancer, in particular colon cancer, and heart disease), then select orange pumpkins. The seeds of the pumpkin have been reported to be higher in iron than any other seed and are a natural source of protein. They are a substantial source of both Omega three and six fatty acids; promote healthy skin; help regulate blood-sugar levels; affect the health of the prostate; naturally reduce cholesterol; assist with blood clotting, digestion and nerve function; and fight parasites! As if that isn’t enough, they are also rich in B-vitamins and other minerals, including selenium and zinc. Veterinarians have been known to recommend pumpkin as a dietary supplement for dogs and cats experiencing various digestive ailments, due to its high fiber content, which aids in proper digestion. Now, if this can help your animals’ digestion, don’t you think it can help yours?
These amazing fruits are ripe right when nature intended. They are prime for the pickin’ at a time when our bodies are in great need of immune-enhancing minerals and vitamins, and do they ever deliver! Get creative beyond bread and roasting the seeds. There are many ways to prepare pumpkin: soups, salads, smoothies and even casseroles. They can be boiled, steamed, roasted, baked and even sautéed. And you don’t have to eat only the orange ones. The white ones are often used for baking, due to their creamier consistency, but you can also eat them green like a squash or zucchini. The flowers make a lovely garnish, and the shell itself can be used as a bowl for punch or soup.  Now, if that doesn’t inspire you to expand your horizons, then you may just need to keep out of the patch!  I hope you will begin to find a new appreciation and approach to this amazing healing food. And here you thought all they were good for were Jack O’Lanterns and fall displays.
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September 2012 B-Metro Article:Healthy Choice: Eat Right, Feel Better

Healthy Choice

Eat right. Feel Better.

By April Jones

It never fails that as the temperature shifts and school begins, so do the many colds and coughs that we and our children must endure. As we go from a season of longer days in the sunshine to one spent indoors, we are once again exposed to that which is constantly recycled in the air around us. A diet of fresh fruits ripened by summer’s kiss many times shifts to easily prepared, often pre-packaged or fast-food meals as we return to busy fall schedules. Unfortunately, a weakened immune system if often the result.



Most of us never receive the same break our kids do from the tiny constraints of our offices and cubicles. Many times the germs we bring to the office are those we obtained from our children. Children have no choice but to be indoors for school, and we have no choice but to take them there. When they are surrounded by 20-30 other children in a room not much larger than a crayola box, it is inevitable they are going to come into contact with some germs. But there is a way to protect them — and your entire household.



One of the greatest defenses you can provide is that of a strong body nurtured and defended by healing foods, vitamins and herbs. Just like soldiers who prepare for battle before they come to the perimeters of the field, we must prepare our immune systems in advance for the onslaught of contagious viral infections. Often it is only a minor deficiency of various micronutrients that can affect the bodies’ ability to resist disease and infection.



We all know the importance of eating a variety of healthy fruits and vegetables. I also want to reinforce the importance of providing yourself and your family with clean, living food throughout the day. It is so easy to throw in a lunchable or pre-packaged snack because of its ease. These foods are expensive but have only minimal vitamins and minerals. They are often loaded with high levels of sodium, which affect blood pressure, and large amounts of sugar (in particular “false sugars”), which causes an increase in blood sugar and weakens the immune system. Stabilizing the blood sugar not only improves focus but decreases moodiness and frustration. Consider providing your children with creative leftovers from the previous night’s meal, some homemade trail mix, veggies, mixed fruit or frozen yogurt — which should be about perfect come lunch time. Ditch the juice boxes and throw in some water. When purchasing foods and snacks, take the time to read the labels and see if you can stick to foods with six ingredients or less. You’ll find this to be quite a challenge but one worth doing. If you don’t recognize an ingredient and can’t pronounce it, more than likely you don’t need it. You’ll not only spend less but you will be forced to get creative and rethink what you are ingesting.



There are many natural immunity builders, and I would love to share just a few of my favorites, but please note that many of the herbs suggested need to be discussed with your family physician if you currently take other medications or contend with allergies and other medical conditions.



Foods that have been shown to have great impact on strengthening the immune system are those high in protein. Even vegetarians require this building block for healthy anti-bodies and white blood cells. Consider Greek yogurt (preferably plain and sugar-free), fish, beans, Brazil nuts, chicken and eggs. When selecting your produce, consider the fruits and vegetables of the season as your best choice for building the immune system. Nature has an incredible way of providing exactly what we need at exactly the right time. Blackberries, blueberries, celery, raw onions, garlic, sweet potatoes, pumpkin, kiwi, oranges, grapefruit, lemons and pineapple are all powerful healing foods. Consider a variety of brightly colored produce in order to receive more types of anti-oxidants.



Probiotics, zinc, echinicea, golden seal, cayenne, ginger, bee pollen, rosemary and green tea, and A,B,C and E vitamins (including folic acid), are also powerful dietary herbs and supplements that can strengthen and defend the immune system.



There are many components to maintaining our health, and we cannot overlook the need for proper hydration, adequate rest and play time, along with exercise. But one of the greatest and simplest ways to build our defense is through our food choices. Take the time to be intentional when planning your meals and see the benefits it brings to your overall health. When your body is properly nourished, you will find you are able to enjoy your fall and winter with fewer interruptions from sickness, and more time indulging in the many fun things you can only experience when your body is vibrant and strong. Sit down with your family, create a list of some favorites and bulk up that fridge with healing foods that will feed your body and your spirit!

August 2012 BMetro Article: Dare to Dream

Dare to Dream 

The journey forward.

By April Jones

You know, until you’ve been left to decide whether to stay or go, this idea of loving something enough to walk away doesn’t seem as complicated as it actually is. You hear it said all the time, but what does that even mean? Who does that? Until you’ve actually dared something more for yourself, it’s always easier said to “go after your dreams” than move past the comfort zone we must negotiate to obtain them. How do you do that? When you’ve wanted something, sought it out, worked hard, dreamed about, prayed for and even caught a glimpse of a dream — only to be redirected, delayed or even declined? Well, the whole thing can just make you completely sick! I’ve sure been sick about a few dashed dreams! It is agonizing to want something and not be able to have it. Or worse, someone says you can’t have it — that they won’t give it to you or that it doesn’t belong to you. Even worse still, that it will never be yours. That is excruciating! The death or delay of a dream can weigh heavy. But to see one come true and to believe in your own power as a catalyst, now that’s pretty encouraging!



What do you do when you find something and all the things appear to line up according to your ideas of your personal destiny? What if you catch a glimpse of something that appears to fit perfectly within your dream? Maybe it is a business. Maybe it’s a home. Maybe it’s a particular lover. Maybe it’s a child. How do you begin to direct your energy? Your time, attention and thoughts can become consumed: fantasy, conversation and even plans towards life in pursuit of that vision can easily become your constant state of “reality.” What if it comes to a screeching halt and plans get put on hold? You can’t get the loan. You can’t conceive. Your affections aren’t reciprocated. Your ideas are not well received. Whatever the case may be, what do you do? What is it you want with this dream and who is in charge here?



I have been presented with a few things I’ve really wanted, but either haven’t been able to have them or was simply denied. There have been many dreams I had to wait a really long time for, and some things I’m still waiting on! I try to approach all things with a spirit of prayer governing my direction and steps. I have a checklist of things that need to be in line for me, that would show whether or not this is something I should pursue. For some this comes through music, or poetry, through journaling, or gardening. Your answers might arise in the gym or on a motorcycle. We look for answers because we’ve got lots of questions! There is great risk and much uncertainty with dreams. When time is taken to ask for direction, be assured life will continue to unfold, and decisions made will either pull you closer to the vision or push you further away from it.



There isn’t a single opportunity in life that doesn’t present you with a choice to work towards a higher self and the life you wish to have. But I find the key to obtaining it is that it not be self-seeking but for the greater good of all involved. When we seek the blessings of space, time, circumstance and relationships, and when we seek the blessing of everyone involved in making the dream manifest, we create the energy needed to move toward it. If it’s something you seek that would benefit you only, you might obtain it, but I guarantee you will work twice as hard for it. This can most often be where and when we find delay, sometimes the denial — even the death — of the dream.



Sometimes you must walk away in order to regain perspective, tie up any loose ends and leave room for others to catch up. Sometimes you do have to leave the path you thought was taking you towards what you wanted. It isn’t that what you see isn’t meant to be, but that it simply isn’t time. Sometimes things come in a different package, in a different place and with someone else. Maybe you need more education. Maybe you need to improve your credit. Maybe you need be less demanding. Maybe you need develop some patience.



I believe when we desire to love, grow and serve others first, and when we are seeking the healthiest within and for ourselves, that we begin to see the blessings of our dreams unfold. Have you the courage to dream? And do you love (fill in the blank) enough to walk away, even though it may delay your dreams?



Manifesting can be a reality. Dreams do come true. Prayers are answered. And the inarguable perfection of God’s great and universal timing can all be known in you. But the dream can only be obtained as you place one foot behind the other on the journey. It is good to dream and it is good to pursue them. But what we set sight on and how we plan to impact the world of those around us is what really makes the dream worth having. And what we learn on the journey is what will prepare us to live it out. When we ask that the world be opened up that we can receive all that is meant for us, be assured, it will be!



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July 2012 B-Metro Article: Pour Me Another...Water, that is!

Pour Me Another…Water, that is!

by April Jones

Water was designed by its very essence to comfort, cleanse and nourish. It is powerful, essential and often highly undervalued as a part of our diets. With the ability to hydrate, rejuvenate and promote healing, water is not only a sustainer of life, but a provider. It is no coincidence that our bodies are made of 60 to 95 percent water by weight (this includes body mass, cellular composition and other physiological factors and varies amongst individuals), that 70 percent of the Earth is covered by water, and that consuming 2.4 liters of it daily has been shown to improve performance, transport waste and maintain proper hydration for optimal brain and bodily functions.



The earth craves the purity of a fresh drink from heaven. When the skies open, all of life receives a shower and soak. The earth is cleansed, the ground draws up the nutrients, mountains send it forth, and so goes an endless push of abundance and refreshment. Our body’s needs are not much different from that of the earth. We require hydration from pure sources to fuel our delicate systems. It comes as no surprise the heavens do not pour down diet or energy drinks, tea or coffee.



“Now,” you may say, “April, I drink de-caffeinated, diet beverages and sports drinks. There is no sugar in my drink, fewer calories, less caffeine and added minerals and vitamins. They all contain water!” OK, let me be a voice of truth. You have been lied to. “Sugar free” is not as harmless as you believe. There have been a great amount of studies run on the effects of various artificial sweeteners, and guess what? The results aren’t positive. You would be better off consuming the real sugar (in small doses, of course) or eliminating it entirely than you would be to fool yourself in thinking you are making the “healthy choice.”



So let’s break a few of these things down, shall we? We all know our bodies need hydration. As the temperature rises, our bodies begin to require even more water to stay hydrated. Again, you may consider this a given, but I have found very few adults actually consume water throughout their day. We have been led to believe that sports drinks, flavored waters, energy drinks, sodas and even beer have a sufficient amount of water to supply our needs and satisfy our thirst. But every additional chemical that is added to your water is one that your body must assimilate. I am not saying there is no value to adding electrolytes and minerals to your diet. Our bodies have been shown to function at an optimal rate when such chemicals are present in our system. But sugary beverages bring on additional thirst, while pure water brings instant hydration. Your body is not confused about what to do with it. It begins to immediately absorb and distribute the water to feed your body and eliminate the unused and unnecessary waste items found, not only in your gut, but in your other organs and even the blood.



Many people drink only when they have moved past the point of dehydration. When you begin to thirst, your body has already moved to that state. It has depleted the reservoirs necessary to satisfy the need and sends the signal that you’re parched. Your body will even send the signal of hunger, for it is incapable of discerning the difference between the two sensations.



One great way to ensure you don’t dehydrate is to begin hydrating in advance. If you know you are going to spend the day in intense activity, whether indoors or out, begin to hydrate at least two to three hours in advance. If you really want to do it right, begin hydrating the day before.



According to Danielle Ratliff-Fryer, RD/CFT, the average sedentary body requires half its body weight in ounces of water daily to properly hydrate. This amount only increases with activity and exercise. Read it again, peeps, half your body weight. Can you honestly say you regularly provide that to yourself?



As the temperatures and your activity level increase this summer, consider your body’s needs when you reach for a drink. There is absolutely nothing wrong with consuming a variety of beverages (believe it or not, even I will reach for the occasional soda), so long as you get the water you need to function properly. You may begin to find your body runs a little longer and feels a little stronger. You may also find your body begins to look and feel a little better. You may even notice some weight loss. And best of all, you might even begin to develop a taste for the stuff. Bottoms up!



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June B-Metro Article: Wanted: Strong Men & Present Fathers

Wanted: Strong men and present fathers.

 

By April Jones

Since June is a time to honor fathers, I thought it appropriate to encourage the men in our lives. This is, however, just as much for women as it is for men. I’ll warn you this piece comes from a true “Daddy’s Girl.” I know everyone doesn’t have a father in his or her life, and for many, the relationships are lacking. But I’ve been blessed with an incredible man I still call “Daddy.” My father has been an ever-present figure of love, support and wisdom. I wish everyone had a dad like mine (or at least a similar man in their lives). He set a standard that has allowed me to understand the characteristics of what I think of as a “true man” and the traits I wish to see present in a partner and father in my own home.



Having two children from two very different fathers, I can safely say no two men parent the same, nor “man” the same, for that matter. Our home has been both with and without a male leader. These variables have exposed me to dynamics of the ever-present void that is inevitably felt by all of us. My parents have always been married. I‘ve never known the experience of living between two houses, two parents and two lives. I always knew my father would be home for supper, sleep under the same roof and be present for family activities. And the men my parents brought into our lives were men of integrity. Not just anyone was invited to our home, and the men that were usually had their own families. They were men my family trusted. I strive to do the same for my own children as I befriend or date men. The ones I invite into my children’s lives are those I consider worthy examples of a gentleman, friend, partner and spouse.



It isn’t easy to see the desire and longing in your daughters for the presence and security of a man in the home. Despite the feminine propaganda, I believe all women desire a loving relationship with a father figure, a man who comes home daily to tell her she’s amazing, beautiful, worthy and valuable and who cherishes and protects her. When that isn’t available, be assured, it is sought out, one way or another.



Boys also need male affirmation and affection, but they also need a man to teach, guide, encourage, and inspire them. A woman can love her son, but she can never teach him how to be a man. And a woman can assure and affirm her daughters, but young girls develop confidence in how to love through the encouragement and gentle love of a father.



Men have a heavy load. I have such respect for my babies’ daddies! They are very different, with different lives, careers, zip codes and temperaments. Between these two fathers are two children with two schedules and two life experiences that will forever shape their own understanding of a man and, one hopes, a husband (when they are both 35). I see the longing and desire they have to be close to their dad. Many times, the comfort they seek I simply cannot supply. As strong as I am, I am not the strength they need. They desire the assurance only a man, a daddy, can provide.



I know it’s ideal to have two partners in the home. I believe God designed a family unit it its Yin-Yang complexity for a variety of reasons. As this concept of masculine and feminine properties of balance suggests, it takes both to provide a well-rounded example. You must know both man and woman to understand those relations within the self and be able to healthily approach the same in others. To have too much of either can be confusing and cause great imbalance. But the reality is that not all homes have a mother and father. In fact, most homes today don’t. But even if that’s the case, it is still possible to bring those dynamics into your child’s life. It is possible to bring incredible male energy and emotion into your home by adopting great men in your lives. Not all women have nor want men in their lives. But may I encourage you, for the sake of your children, to seek out strong, responsible men who exemplify the traits you want your son to emulate and who are like the man you’d want your daughter to marry. And men, may I encourage you to set the same example for the children in your lives, even if they aren’t your offspring.



There are some men that are doing the right things: supporting the mamas, making time for their children, extending themselves in order to be present and seeking to shape their kids’ lives. We all know there are plenty that aren’t, so let’s not even bother with that bashing session. Men, you know who you are, and for those that are stepping up, on behalf of all mothers, thank you. It takes strength and courage to be a man today. Just as media bombards women with ideas of who they should be, the same is done to men. Men, you are worth more than your pocketbook, car, career or politics, or even your abs, haircut or wardrobe. You are valued as the example you were designed to be. You were created to embody strength, courage, compassion, wisdom and honor. Today, more than ever, we need you to be the warrior men you were designed to be.



There are young boys looking to you to understand how to be a man. They need you to show them how to be a gentleman, hero and leader. There are young girls hungry for you to show them how to be a lady. They need you to show them how a gentleman behaves, what a hero does and how to lead alongside her partner. This father business is for the brave, relentless and courageous. The role you play in their lives today will be the role you see them portray tomorrow. As you enjoy this Father’s Day, consider the impact you are making in your home. And for those of us without your presence, consider the impact you are making in ours as well. Men, you are loved, honored and cherished.Thank you for raising us up, providing the backbone to our homes and inspiring us to be as strong as we believe you to be.



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May 2012 B-Metro Article: Mother May I?

 Mother, May I?
Reflect the best parts of yourself in your children.

By April Jones

Mother, may I? May I have another cookie? May I go outside and play? May I stay up past bedtime? Out past curfew? Watch one more show? Play one more game?”



Although endearing, today we rarely hear “Mother, may I?” but more like, “GIVE ME, GIVE ME, GIVE ME!” The relentless cries and requests of children that echo in the ears of all mothers rarely contain words of appreciation and support. They are also rarely requests for things they can do for US, but more like things they want for themselves — and now! So Mothers, may I take a moment to express gratitude and encouragement for ALL you do — EVERY moment of EVERY day through your entire lives, and the lives of your children. Motherhood comes with great reward, but it is rarely expressed in the home from the lips of those we work hardest for. And it is rarely acknowledged by those who’ve never known the task of full-time caretaker for the home or the herd.



I know how difficult it is to be a mother. I am a single mother of two amazing children. And as great as I believe them to be, there is no denying the demands they make on me daily. These demands are not just physical but emotional and psychological. I believe my children to be the very best and worst of me, little mirrors that constantly reflect not only the nature of who it is I am shaping them to be, but who it is I am, or have been, when I am with them.



It brings great satisfaction to see your child demonstrate the characteristics you’ve strived so hard to engrain, like manners, generosity and affection. It also brings great pain to see them demonstrate the less noble characteristics they kearn from us—impatience, judgment, anger and even hostility. There is so much to learn from our children, especially when they play. You can hear them mimic life and experience in the voices of their dolls, the clamoring of their kitchens and the ways to which they communicate to one another. I have many a reality check when I listen to the various ways my oldest (being the ripe, young teenager of 16) speaks to her little sister (at the tender age of 6). There are times when the voice is soft and endearing. She is eager to listen, play and be present with her sibling. And then, there are times when the voice is so condescending, aggravated and completely disinterested. She wants absolutely nothing to do with her sister, because EVERYTHING she does “gets on her nerves.” I know a lot of this comes with the age and sibling territory. But if I get completely honest with myself, at times a lot of it comes from me. When I am patient with my children — eager to listen, fully present and engaging — my voice is soft, tender and loving. When I am not, well, let’s face it, the tones are sharp, short, distracted and irritable. I just want everyone to get out of my face and out of my way (holler if ya’ hear me, mamas)!



Not only are we responsible for teaching, protecting and providing for our children, we are responsible for demonstrating character, exemplifying integrity and communicating respect in both our words and actions towards them and others. Everyone knows walking speaks more than talking. And everyone has known the “Do as I say, not as I do” parent. But what is it we are truly demonstrating to our children? What do they see in us when someone cuts us off in traffic? Rushes to get in line ahead of us with a full buggy when we only have three items? When someone gives us too much change? When someone needs a helping hand? When someone straight up pisses us off? Our kids also see when and where we shop. When and what we eat. How and with whom we spend our free time. What do they see or hear? And what are they learning?



I know we all want to believe ourselves Mary Poppins -— practically perfect in everyway. I joke all the time in my home that I am. But we aren’t. We never will be, nor are we supposed to be. But we can be present and aware. We can be intentional about who we are raising by the character we demonstrate to our children. We can set standards in how we react and respond to others. We can show them discernment with how we spend our time and our money. We teach with every choice we make. Every act teaches one; every word leads to a conversation. We have great power in our homes to raise our children in “the ways that they should go.” The question is, what direction are you sending them in? What tools are you equipping them with? And how strong do you wish to make them with all that you have given?



Dedication and diligence reap great reward, not only in the character of our children, but the quality of their lives. There is no greater desire of a mother than to see her children be happy and successful. It brings pride to see our children demonstrating and honoring the values we worked so hard to teach. These are the legacies we leave behind. The inheritance of your words and wisdom are taught daily. The question is, are you leaving your children pearls or plastic baubles?

Silver Linings is Pleased to Introduce our Newest Addition

 “Teach what you want to learn,”  instructions once given to Cindy were words of wisdom she has chosen to pursue. With this in mind, Cindy approaches teaching from the heart. Hoping to inspire compassion and joy in her students, Cindy wishes to leave them with a sense of peace that they can carry throughout their lives, and spread wherever they may wander.

After the birth of her first child, and diagnosed with fibromyalgia, she began a practice of yoga when prescription drugs only created more symptoms and worsened her depression. Quickly discovering that western medicine had little to offer this devastating condition, she turned to more holistic means. Today, she uses only her daily yoga practice and a healthy, whole diet to manage her symptoms-believing we are all the owners of our own health.

Cindy completed her 200-hour yoga teacher training in May 2012 with Akasha Ellis and Laure Tyree. She feels that yoga is one of the greatest gifts of this life. It has taught her to feel the joy and connectedness in every moment, and every movement. A fourth-degree black belt in Taekwondo, Cindy has a strong background in martial arts. She taught for ten years, and still has a great love of the art, and of the vigorous, intense physical movement. She brings this love to her vinyasa classes, creating an exciting, heart opening flow to build a strong, healthy body.

One of her greatest wishes is to have the opportunity to reach out to people in chronic pain, of any kind, and offer some of the beautiful, healing benefits of this amazing practice. You can join Cindy for her Saturday morning class at 8 am. Victorious Vinyasa (90 minutes)  is a fun, fresh flow to get you refreshed and energized for your weekend.

Hope and Healing Start from Within-April BMetro Article

Greetings, beautiful people of Birmingham. I am pleased to introduce myself to you as the new voice of health and wellness for B-Metro magazine. When people ask “What do you do?” I find I most often refer to myself as a “healing artist,” but “awareness consultant,” “prayer warrior” or “empowerment coach” would suffice, too. Due to the many arts I enjoy and the broad range of healing arts I practice and teach, I have found this simplicity incites greater interest than if I were to recite all of my titles. But since we are getting to know one another, allow me to take a moment to introduce myself.



I have the privilege of running a facility called Silver Linings LLC, a healing arts center where hope and healing truly unite. I am a licensed massage and neuromuscular therapist, a master medical massage practitioner, a Vedic Thai Yoga therapist, a Level 1 Qi Gong Instructor and one of Birmingham’s pioneer Yoga instructors. I have been a licensed therapist for 10 years, a yoga instructor for 14 and an artist for a lifetime. I draw. I paint. I am a photographer, a dancer, a singer, a jewelry maker. I love art of all kinds. I take the title of shaman quite seriously and believe my ordained calling is to challenge, create, console, uplift, encourage, inspire, educate and empower others as they travel the road of healing



I have always been drawn to nature, the Earth, the Divine Spirit, the wounded and the broken-hearted. I was never one to take anything at face value and always researched and read to fully understand anything I was interested in. I was the girl who brought home yoga books from the library, bought herb books at book fairs and mulled over creative visualization books while listening to Enya as a teen. I began practicing yoga at the age of 13 with the only book available to me at the time, titled Yoga. I know. Deep, right? As an insomnia–ridden teen, I would scour over the book filled with images of a leotard-clad woman in these positions I was already naturally doing and was astounded to learn they actually had names, aka “asanas.”



You could say I’ve always been of the “Earth muffin” persuasion, which I now embrace, and that bent has served me well. For not only have those interests continued to grow, but so has my passion and knowledge, to which I have dedicated my life and career. I am asked all kinds of questions regarding medical intervention and referrals, nutrition, supplements, herbs, fitness, spiritual enlightenment, emotional healing and other topics. Please note — I am not a physician, nor do I claim to be a medical authority. I don’t even play one on TV. But I am a medical professional. With a lifetime interest and investment in health and wellness, along with personal research and study, ranging from anatomy and physiology, to food, psychology, herbs and exercise, I believe myself equipped to direct and provide valuable information that can enlighten and empower. I feel education is the greatest vehicle to awareness, and awareness is what can lead to the empowerment necessary to heal.



I fear I must warn you, however, that the journey to wellness does not always wind down paths filled with sunshine and rainbows. I may step on a few toes, push your comfort level, dissect many of the “unmentionables,” challenge your beliefs and insist you take responsibility and be proactive. I will share what I know and seek answers for the things I don’t know. I am not known to tip-toe or hold back for the sake of easing the blow. But I’m also not known for tearing you down without full intentions of building you up. Ideas must often be challenged before they can be cultivated. Bodies must often be taxed in order to be strengthened. And spirits must be examined and sifted of debris in order to liberate the dark corners of the heart and mind. I look forward to many an opportunity to share and challenge you in the broad world of health, wellness and spiritual awareness by bringing you enlightening and educational information. Please know your comments and questions are always welcome. I invite you to engage and challenge me with your thoughts, ideas, questions or concerns. I believe honesty is most honoring to us all. I don’t claim to have it all together, but I love to learn and share on the journey. May you find my words a fountain of refreshment, a blessing and delight, like “golden apples in a silver basket!” Namaste, ya’ll.•

To view the original piece, please visit: http://b-metro.com/let%e2%80%99s-take-a-journey-together/5605/

3 Day Vedic Thai Table Course

Come study with Vedic Conservatory's Michael "Mukti" Buck for a

3 Day Vedic Thai Yoga on the Table Course
July 27th-29th, 2012.

This course teaches a longer 2 hour sequence of Thai-Yoga Body Work techniques.

You'll watch demonstrations, take notes in your manual, then practice giving and receiving with various partners in class.

You will learn:

-How to apply the 2 hour sequence of Thai-Yoga Bodywork asanas and techniques, including transitions.

-How to use breath, meditation,mantra, bandha, and Yogic techniques to enhance the quality of the session.

-To comprehend the theories of releasing the energy on a physical, emotional, and spiritual level.

The course is *$350(24 CEC's available),
which includes your manual, however this workshop is open to ANYONE wishing to expand their knowledge of Yoga,
and wish to share the love of touch and movement.

*This is the earlybird rate for those registered and paid by July 1, 2012.

For those registering AFTER July 1, the fee will be $375.

The course is offered July 27th-29th, from 9am-5pm daily.

Please contact April Jones at (205)401-5010 or thehealingartscenter@yahoo.com to register.

BMetro: Style Icon Feature, January 2012

Style Icon: April Jones, Instructor and Healer of Silver Linings: A Sanctuary for the Healing Arts

by Tracy Robinson

Photography by Chuck St. John

Dancer’s pose before the real dancing begins during a night on the town. Cherish tunic, Claire’s leggings, Niki Biki leg warmers, Guess peep-toe heels, vintage cuff, handbag, belt & scarf

It’s not everyday you hear someone include make-believe characters in their list of style influences, but April Jones’ self-described “predictably unpredictable” personal style was shaped by heroines of her childhood: Rainbow Bright (“for her vibrant color palette and crazy hair”); Miss Piggy (“for her gowns, gloves, rhinestones and frequent wardrobe changes”); Strawberry Shortcake (“who inspired earthy feminine wear”); Wonder Woman (“for her bad-ass boots and bangles”); and She-Ra, Princess of Power (“because she was just straight up sexy and strong”).

To represent the homecoming court in high school, April wore a pink vintage dress, vintage wool cloak and patent leather shoes. Vintage attire continues to be a favorite, and she has an ever-growing collection of clutches, gloves and parasols. April is known as the “thrift store queen,” although she prefers “thrifting connoisseur.” Dropping in local shops at least once a week, April’s rotation includes the Salvation Army on Green Springs and Highway 150, Goodwill on Green Springs, Mission Possible in Eastwood and Pinson, Big Saver in Roebuck, Alabama Thrift Store in Huffman and Planet Thrift in Center Point. She enjoys supporting local artists, thus much of her jewelry is purchased from art shows and galleries. And if she doesn’t have something that works, she’ll whip up something herself.

As a teen, April often threatened to shave her head, but that threat didn’t become a reality until 2005, when a friend began chemo treatments and April took the lead in support. After growing out her hair with her friend, this past June April decided it was again time to “relinquish the mane,” and a Mohawk was a look she’d always wanted to try. While to her mother’s chagrin, April discovered that most men find the daring hairstyle rather sexy, although she admits this may be more due to the fact that “when women think they are sexy, men think they are sexy, too.” As April points out, “You can’t hide behind a Mohawk. It takes a certain amount of confidence and self-assuredness to rock a hawk, and I feel I have a healthy dose of both.”

Not surprisingly, April’s favorite colors include the bold, full of energy hues of the sun: red, orange and yellow. But wardrobe selections are often dictated by her mood. Tired: jeans and a hat. Frisky: expect anything! The event, location, weather and crowd also factor in, as well as duration. Notorious for a wardrobe change, April usually has a back-up bag packed, “for round two of the evening.”

When it comes to trends, April says she doesn’t follow them, she starts them. “I was always the girl that was laughed at or made fun of for my wardrobe choices, but then watched others follow two to three years down the road,” she says. “I’m still that girl, and I’m OK with it.” That said, April is always mindful that she is a mother and businesswoman. When dressing, she considers the example she is giving her two daughters, Jade, 15, and Willow, 5. “Every layer I put on demonstrates what I consider acceptable and tasteful.” By the same token, she considers the message she’s sending a potential client or student. “It only takes a moment to send the wrong message, and I work hard to uphold the ethical boundaries of my profession, as well as the integrity of a confident and discerning woman.”

And quite a businesswoman she is. April is approaching her 14th year of teaching yoga in Birmingham and recently celebrated her 10th year practicing as a licensed massage and neuromuscular therapist. In the past three years, she created Healing Waters medicinal elixirs, opened Silver Linings, A Sanctuary for the Healing Arts on Southside, and became one of Birmingham’s first Level One Qi Gong instructors.

“I’m bold, I’m present, and I’m beautiful,” April says. “I say if you can’t step up, step off…or at least step aside.”

To learn more about April, including her suggestions for Optimal Wellness in the New Year, log on to Tracy’s Style blog at B-Metro.com. •

April’s Top 10 Things to do for Optimal Wellness in 2012

10. FORGET NEW YEAR’S RESOLUTIONS. Commit to New Year’s Intentions. Sit down & create yourself a list of 3 categories: Spiritual, Emotional & Physical Intentions. Keep it simple and realistic, but set your intentions for AT LEAST 5 THINGS in each that you can do to make a positive impact on YOUR life, and YOUR WORLD.

9. FIND A WAY TO GET CONNECTED IN SERVICE. There are A LOT of amazing community projects, ministries, and outreach services in CONSTANT need of man power, financial aide and volunteer support. It is INFINITELY rewarding to plug in and serve an organization you believe in and are passionate about.

8. DESIGNATE SOME DOWN TIME. It is easy to get caught up in the many demands that clamor for our attention and energy. We are busier than ever, and that often leaves no time for personal reflection and TLC. Make a date with yourself for a hot bubble bath, sip some hot tea, read a good book, schedule a massage, or make it to a yoga class. But take time out to TAKE CARE OF YOU!

7. MAINTAIN A DAILY TIME OF PRAYER AND/OR MEDITATION. Many people avoid these activities and think them to be irrelevant. I have found taking time to be still, express needs, reflect, offer gratitude, and set forth my desires and intentions can be most powerful and transformational to my attitude and awareness throughout the day. What’s even MORE powerful is learning to sit and simply listen…no talking …just listening and being present.

6. BE AWARE OF WHAT YOU CONSUME. This goes for food, music, and all forms of media. There is a constant stream of energy that moves through, in and around us ALWAYS, but not everything has a place within. If you find there are things you ingest that aren’t building you up and providing strength, then be assured they are most definitely doing quite the opposite, draining and tearing you down.

5. SORT, SIFT, AND PURGE. The New Year is an incredible time to sort through the MANY places we store our belongings, our attentions, and even our affections. Much like the food, music and media we ingest, the belongings we collect and store house energy. It may be there are things you’ve kept or collected that no longer serve you. If you haven’t used it, haven’t seen or, or don’t even remember having it, it may be time to let it go. Consider donating, recycling, or having a sale…just let it go!

4. PLAN SOME PLAY TIME. Now, I’m serious about the seriousness of how very serious we can be. Children laugh and smile because they PLAY, and you should to! Designate time in your day, your week, and definitely every month to disconnect and simply enjoy the things you love: your family, your community, your hobby. But PLAY-with arms wide open in complete, reckless abandon! Just play!

3. CREATE. Now, I can hear the many of you already say, “I don’t have a creative bone in my body!”  But I would press to argue that half-truth by saying we ALL have the ability to create. Many simply think of this as art, but consider gardening, cooking, model building, car renovations, wood working, organizing, or writing. Any thing to which you have a passion or interest for has room for creation. Free yourself of the idea of the outcome-just build, shape, and create!

2. CLARIFY & INVEST. Make a point to review where you are investing: your time, your money and your energy. Taking the time to honestly look at how you are spending your resources can provide you great freedom and peace. It may be you are financially, physically or emotionally drained due to the investments you’ve chosen. If you don’t like the current returns, then change the investments!

1. GET ACTIVE. Take steps every day to increase your activity. Simple things like a brisk walk in the morning or after dinner, a fun dance class, or even some type of group exercise class( MAY I SUGGEST YOGA?)  is a great way to get started.  If you are already active, but bored, try a new sport, workshop or boot camp! If you really want to vamp it up, join me for Momentum: A Yoga in Motion series ™ Activity requires effort, and effort takes energy. Increase your activity, and you increase your efforts. When you increase your efforts, you increase your energy-see how this works!?

ABUNDANT HEALTH, JOY AND BLESSINGS TO YOU THIS NEW YEAR! NAMASTE!